Remembering what’s important

Oct 13, 2009

This weekend, one of my co-workers passed away.  He was 33 years old with a wife and toddler at home and a baby on the way.  I didn’t know him well, but we had worked together on a few projects and he was always very knowledgeable, thorough and helpful.  His passing was very unexpected and, as these things do, it caused me to think about my own life and my priorities.

 

Like many DBAs, the servers that Tim and I manage need to be available 24/7.  Tim is on call every third week, but being a lead, he often needs to step in on weeks that he isn’t on call.  I’m the sole DBA at my company.  We’re both proud of being dedicated professionals and we work hard to keep our current systems available as well as keeping our skills updated so that we can provide the best solutions possible.  I firmly believe that we’re setting a good example for our children in showing them the responsibility that we take in our positions.

 

The problem that we both face is in knowing when to step out of our work personas and focus on our family.  Tim is an excellent father and I work hard to be a good mom, but I know that there are many times that I’m talking about work, thinking about work, worrying about work when I should be more engaged as a wife and mother.  While I know that we both provide benefit to our businesses, I also recognize that, if we left, we would be replaced and work would continue as usual.  The time and effort that we put into our time together and our time as parents will shape all of us for the rest of our lives.

 

There isn’t an easy solution to this problem.  It’s not always that simple to walk out the door (especially for Tim, who works at home) and turn off the DBA part.  There will be times that I need to focus on an issue even after leaving work in order to sort it out, but I’m going to make the effort to do that only when it’s necessary.   I need to keep in mind that my first job is to take care of my family.  If I do that, the rest of life will work itself out.

A co-worker of mine had the following saying up on their wall:

 

                              Remember, the people that you work for are waiting for you at home.

 

I need to keep that in mind.

Posted by tledwards | Categories: DBAs, Miscellaneous, Personal | Tagged: , |

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