Flying At Mach 2 With Your Hair On Fire
Some of you who are my age will recognize the reference in the title as a line from the movie “Top Gun.” Most of you will probably look at the title and think that this blog post is going to be about project management. Unfortunately, you may be disappointed to learn that it is really more of a personal blog post – one about life management.
Much of this year, I have pretty much felt like the title. This last week and weekend, I actually came to realize the impact that moving at this pace for as long as I have has had on me and, more importantly, my family. This weekend was the first time in a long time that I have truly taken a weekend off from work. Initially, it was more out of exhaustion and truly being burned out that I did it, but I came to realize that I got a lot more than rest out of it. It was the first time in a long time that I truly took the time to laugh with and thoroughly enjoy my family without having things like work, studying for MCITP exams, the PASS Virtual Chapter that I am a leader of, etc. nagging at me in the back of my mind. I discovered that you need to be very careful not to let outside responsibilities and activities take over your life and cause you to take your family for granted. Luckily, I have an extremely wonderful and supportive wife and great kids who have been very understanding throughout this hectic year. Such a support structure is a gift that we have to be very careful not to over utilize.
In this time where job security is probably at its lowest level in several generations, we have to be careful to leave time for our families and loved ones while also trying to hold on to our jobs. It is easy to lose focus and not give the proper amount of time and attention to those we love because they are not the proverbial squeaky wheel when we have things like projects, training, work travel, conferences, etc. tugging on us. It is a difficult balancing act to be sure, but one that I believe will pay dividends over and over the better we become at it. The thing we have to realize is that our loved ones will probably be the last ones to call us on this, so we have to make sure to be vigilant in keeping things balanced. Because of this, I have decided that even though resolutions are made at the beginning of the year, I am going to start mine early and resolve to try to cut down on the outside activities that have kept me from fully enjoying my family and managing the balance in my life. I think that not only will everyone in my family be better for it, but that I will be more productive and happy in the activities that I do decide to continue engaging in.